3. Generative questioning
These questions were initially developed by Sean E. Brotherson as part of his research in to the use of the generative perspective.
Statement: I would like to find out about some of your experiences with (child’s name) and what those experiences mean to you.
Can you tell me about the most enjoyable experience you ever had with (child’s name)? What meaning does that experience have for you now?
Can you tell me about an experience when you felt especially close emotionally to (child’s name)? What meaning does that experience have for you now?
Can you tell me about an experience when you cared for and nurtured (child’s name)? What did you learn about nurturing children from that experience?
Can you tell me about an experience when you felt especially distant emotionally from (child’s name) when he/she needed you to be there for him/her? What meaning does that experience have for you now?
What was the most painful experience you ever had with (child’s name)? What meaning does that experience have for you now?
Are there any particular things that help you to be the kind of father to (child’s name) that he/she needs you to be?
Are there any particular things that prevent you from being the kind of father to (child’s name) that he/she needs you to be?
Can you tell me about any important sacrifices you have made in your life that demonstrate how much you care about (child’s name)?
