Working With Men

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Engaging Fathers Training Workshops

Groupwork Solutions provide 1-2 day training workshops that explore current issues for working with men. The ‘Engaging Fathers’ Workshops allow workers, organisations or networks of services to provide more effective programs to men and families.

The workshop focuses on:

an understanding of men’s behaviour
what men might want when accessing community services
strengths based approaches for working with men
how workers can engage men in service delivery
how to market services to men
working with separated fathers
skills used when working with men
effective ways for female workers to work with men.

The significance of the non-deficit perspective

Amongst the many and varied descriptions of masculinity, the non-deficit perspective (King, 2000; King, 2001; King, Sweeney & Fletcher, 2004; Hawkins & Dollahite, 1997) identifies that in many men, their relationship with their children is a very significant connection. This connection with significant family relationships can be viewed as ‘the quiet place within’ that Australian men talk about least. It is a personal space that men rarely share. Until recently, it was not until men approached the end of their life, that they often expressed regret for spending too such time at work and not enough time with their family. This reflection is still experienced today, as many men only start talking about the importance of their family relationships after the crisis has occurred, such as family separation.

Australian men are becoming more vocal about this quiet place, i.e. the importance of their connection with their family, particularly their children. What is occurring is a quiet men’s revolution. This men’s revolution is not as vocal as the women’s movement, but it is noticed as men talk about achieving a better balance between work and family demands. The change is seen by how men behave differently as they walk hand-in-hand with their children and proudly push the pram. Some men identify the reason for attend a fathering program, is because they want to father their children differently to how they were fathered. The birth of a child is now a ‘wake-up call’ for many men and an opportunity for them to review the choices they make in life and provides the motivation to develop stronger relationships.

The shadowy side of men’s behaviour still exists. It is in this context that many men and family relationship services operate. The challenge for programs is to engage men in working with this ‘quiet space’. The non-deficit perspective does not condone inappropriate male behaviours but harnesses the positive motivations that makes change a reality. Once this quiet space is entered and men are engaged in accessing Men and Family Relationship Programs, the skills used by professional workers in working with women can be applied to working with men.

Current challenges

While significant achievements have occurred in working with men (O’Brien & Rich, 2002), the challenge is still enormous. The Western Australian Report that reviewed Family and Parent Support Services for Men (Nixon, 1999) identified that men have major health problems. They have high rates of depression, suicide, violence, drug and alcohol use and fatal motor vehicle accidents.

The report recognises that there is still a strong belief that men do not ask for help but fix themselves. Promotion of men and family relationship services still needs improvement as many men view the word ‘counselling’ as a punitive response for workplace misdemeanours (Nixon, 1999). It is still common for men to remark “I never thought such services for men existed” when they first come into contact with M&FR programs. Men’s health programs recognise that men visit their doctor less than women and only seek help only after a crisis has occurred (Nixon, 1999).

The inflexibility of the Australian workplace (at the shop, factory or self-employment level) and the widespread existence of family violence are still significant issues that confront programs as men usually access programs only when a crisis occurs. A variety of public awareness campaigns have been useful in promoting a responsive environment that encourages the proactive view that it is okay for men to seek help before the crisis occurs.

For instance, Mensline Australia, the national men’s phone counselling service, has placed regular advertisements in national and local newspapers. The development of Mensline has been an opportunity to provide an initial assessment and counselling service for men. The men are referred to services in their local areas where they can continue to have their needs met in a more comprehensive way.

Principles for effective practice

Eight principles have been identified for working effectively with men:

Importance of perceived equality
Existence of ‘window periods’ where men access support
The need for fathering services to be distinguished from general parenting services
The value of personal recommendation about services
The importance of flexible service delivery
Client involvement in program development
Solution focused approach
Local area coordination

For more information see King, A. 2005. The 'quiet revolution' amongst men. Developing the practice of working with men in family relationships. Children Australia Vol.30 No. 2

Working with men and relationship issues - opportunities and challenges (Video)

One of the highlights of the 2013 National Men's Health Gathering in Brisbane was the Men and Vulnerable Families Forum Plenary Session featuring presentations by Dr Warren Farrell (USA) and Glen Poole (UK). Titled Working with men and relationship issues – opportunities and challenges, this event explored many contemporary issues around men, fathers and relationships, and how to better support them. The entire event, including an extensive Q & A session, filmed on Friday 25 October 2013 at 9am. The session was chaired by Andrew King from Groupwork Solutions, the two keynote speakers were:

Dr Warren Farrell, educator and author

Glen Poole, Director of the UK consultancy Helping Men

Working with men and relationship issues video

2013 National Men's Health Gathering, Brisbane. The Men and Vulnerable Families Forum Plenary Session -- Friday 25 October, 9am 'Working with men and relatio...

References

Hawkins, A.J. & Dollahite, D.C. (1997). Generative Fathering: Beyond Deficit Perspectives. Sage: Thousand Oaks.

King, A. (2000). Working with fathers: The non-deficit perspective. Children Australia, Vol 25, No.3.

King, A. 2001. Engaging fathers in Group Work. ‘Developing Practice’ Winter 2001

King, A., Sweeney, S. & Fletcher, R. (2004). A checklist for organisations working with men. Developing Practice, December.

Nixon, M. (Hon). (1999). Report of the Committee Reviewing Family and Parent Support Services for Men. WA.

Other useful websites are:
https://mensline.org.au/